Sunday, April 8, 2012

Sorrow In Our Home

On Friday March 30th I received a phone call from my number 2 son. I immediately felt there was something seriously wrong as I heard the words, "Mom, I need you to stay calm." My oldest three sons and my husband were just beginning to enjoy a fun afternoon together when tragedy struck our family. My dear husband had just finished telling my boys that he wasn't feeling well when he fell to the ground. One look at their father and the boys knew that things were critical. Number 1 son began CPR while Number 2 son called 911. My boys fought so hard to keep their dad alive but our Father in Heaven had different plans.

My loving husband died on a beautiful, sunny day surrounded by three of our four sons. Our family is devastated. We miss him so very much! He was a man who loved life and especially loved his family. He was a devoted and supportive husband, a hard worker, had a great sense of humor, and was always positive. He had a firm testimony of his Savior and lived by His example.
He was a friend to everyone he met. He left a great legacy for our five children and for everyone who knew and loved him. His life manifested his belief in service, hard work, respect, friendship, goodness, forgiveness, gratitude, laughter, and love.

His passing has left a great hole in my heart. My beloved hubby supported me, believed in me, and most of all he loved me in spite of me. Joys of Home blog is what it is because of his support and belief in me. He was always by my side as we built projects, and built our family and our life. He held one end, I held the other, and together we made sure things were level. I am not sure what my future holds without him visibly by my side, but I take comfort in knowing that our love and his life is eternal. I am so grateful to have this assurance and to know that God has a plan for me and for my family and He wants us to be happy even in tragedy.

I deeply miss the dear, sweet man
who has been by my side for 33 years.
I love him with all my heart.

Goodbye Mr. Joys of Home.

197 comments:

  1. Oh my goodness! I am so sorry for your loss! I can't imagine losing my sweetheart, and we've only been married 8 1/2 years!!

    Take comfort in the Gospel and the peace of eternal families through the sealing power of the priesthood.

    You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

    I have been a follower of your blog for a long time!

    Lots of Hugs!
    -Raquel W.
    from
    http://cottoncandydreamsjewelery.blogspot.com/

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  2. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family are definitely in our prayers!

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  3. {{{hugs}}} I am so, so sorry for your loss :(

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  4. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  5. So sorry for your loss. Praying for your family during this difficult time. julie :)

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  6. I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.

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  7. What an unexpected and sad loss for you and your family. I know what a hard time this must be for you and your family. You and your family is in my prayers as you mourn the loss of your husband/father/friend.

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  8. I am so very sorry for your loss. May God's comforting peace touch you every minute of this difficult time. I will keep you in my prayers.

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  9. I'm so sorry to hear of your deep loss; praying for you today and that you will feel God's arms wrapped about you!

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  10. So sorry. Said a prayer for your family.

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  11. So sorry. Said a prayer for your family.

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  12. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. I will keep you and your family in prayers. I hope that the love of family and friends will be very real to you at this time!

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  13. i am very, very sorry for your loss!!

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  14. Sorry for you loss. Thinking of you and your family and sending wishes for peace your way.
    Rachael

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  15. So sorry for the loss of your dear husband. I am keeping your family in my prayers. Stay strong.

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  16. God bless you precious! Jesus is with you and your family now .. and your beloved has received his reward in eternity! prayers and blessings on all of you

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  17. I am so very sorry for your loss. I pray that you will find the comfort you need during this time.

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  18. I am so very sorry for your loss. I pray that you will find the comfort you need during this time.

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  19. So sorry about hear about such a tremendous loss...will keep your family in our prayers. I have followed your blog for some time now and feel this pain with you, although I can't begin to imagine the depth of yours.

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  20. I am so sorry! You are in my prayers! I know the Lord will walk with you in this hard time. Does your church have a grief program? That would help a lot.

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  21. Oh Joy, I am so sorry to hear this news. You and your children and grandchildren are in my prayers as you face this time of grief and loss. I know you know the One true source of comfort and I know He will sustain you through this.

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  22. So sorry for your loss. You will be in many thoughts and prayers.

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  23. I'm so sorry, you are in my thoughts and prayers. May you have the comfort of family and friends around you.

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  24. I'm so sorry for your loss. You're family is in our prayers!

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  25. Oh I am so, so very sorry. I can't even imagine your grief. What a blessing though to KNOW that he is with his Saviour. Our prayers are with you and your family.

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  26. I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  27. I am so sorry to read of your loss. May your faith & memories comfort you & your family.

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  28. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Thank you for sharing a little bit about him. It sounds like he was an amazing husband and father.

    I hope this doesn't sound insensitive, but what a party he must have attended in heaven on Easter Sunday!

    May God bless you with peace and comfort in your time of need.

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  29. I am praying for you and your family. May the Blessing of the Spirity surround you all.

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  30. My prayers are for you and your family.

    I enjoy reading how he was always helping you in your projects.

    I am really sorry about this.

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  31. My heart is so with you and your family right now. My prayers for you are the strength and comfort you will need at this time. Your testimony is so beautiful and I know that will help you through. Continue to ask Heavenly Father for strength and I KNOW He will be there for you holding you up till you can stand on your own again. Love to you sweetie.

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  32. After checking in on you every day for the last couple of years, you have become one of my friends. I am shocked to learn of your loss. At this blessed Easter season, I know you will find peace in the gospel and the miracle of the resurrection. Families are forever. :) Love to you and your family

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  33. I am so sorry about your loss. Prayers for you guys!

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  34. My heart breaks for you and your family. I am so sorry for your great loss but glad that life and marriage is eternal in Gods plan. "God be w/ you till you meet again!"

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  35. So sorry for your loss Joy. What heartache for all of you. And right before Easter and Conference weekend. I hope you found some comfort with the Conference messages and Easter weekend.

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  36. I'm a blubbering mess, so I can't imagine how you are. What a hard thing to endure. Thank goodness for the gospel and our knowledge. Sending a big hug your way:)

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  37. omgoodness! i am so, so sorry! praying that you and your brave boys find comfort.

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  38. Oh Joy, you know you are one of my favorite blogs, and to hear this, my heart just breaks for you. Hugs and prayers to you and your family. Bless you all~
    Melissa

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  39. So sorry for you and your family. Sending prayers your way!

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  40. Oh, Sweet Joy ~ I am so sorry.
    I will be in prayer for you and your family.
    hugs,
    lora

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  41. So sorry to hear of your loss. I'll be praying for God to comfort you and your boys during this difficult mourning time.

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  42. I'm so sorry. I read, but don't normally comment. Please accept my condolences on your terrible loss.

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  43. Oh dear, I'm so very sorry to hear of your dear husband's unexpected passing. My prayers are with you and your family that you will find peace and strength to get through the days ahead.

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  44. So sorry to hear. That must be such a shock. I do enjoy your blog. You do inspire me to bring joyfulness to my homemaking.

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  45. You and your family are in our prayers. Life is so precious and so uncertain. May you find peace in the arms of your family and the heart of God.

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  46. Joy - what a total shock! I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through! But I DO know that you WILL get through it. Hang in there my friend.

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  47. Oh Jesus...find comfort in loving on those grandbabies, Joy... *HUG*

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  48. I'm so very sorry for your loss! You and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers!

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  49. I send my deepest heartfelt condolenses to you and your family. May the promise of an eternal reunion bring you peace and comfort in times to come. You are loved and prayed for by many...we are adding our faith and prayers for your family as well.

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  50. Your blog is the first blog I ever started reading. That was 3 years ago. I still read, but rarely comment.
    I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May you find peace in remembering the good times.
    gail

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  51. May God give you and your family strength during the days to come. I love reading your blog and I always enjoyed hearing about the projects you and your husband did together. Keep on doing what you and he shared.

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  52. I am so terribly sorry for your loss. Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending hugs, Sherry

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  53. So so sorry for you and your family. Your husband seemed like such a wonderful man and will be sorely missed by many, I'm sure. So glad you have comfort in the gospel.

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  54. I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. I will be praying for you and your family.

    Kasey

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  55. I am so sorry!! I am along time reader but I don't comment often. My heart goes out to you and your sweet family. Please know that I just prayed for you all and will continue to as our Father brings you to my mind.

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  56. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers for your entire family as you get this difficult time. The blessings of the gospel and knowledge of eternal families is priceless. Much love.

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  57. My heart aches for you and your family. Lean on the Lord and each other. x

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  58. I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. Your family will be in my prayers.

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  59. Praying that God will hold you and your family up during this difficult time.

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  60. Breaks my heart as this is one of my deepest fears. I'm so sorry and I will be praying specifically for your boys and the memory that they will carry with them. I pray that the memories of his life with them will crowd out the memories of that day.

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  61. Oh dear friend. I am so sorry to hear this. Your firm roots in the Gospel soil are evident in everything you write and post. I am sure your beautiful artistry will be a blessing at this time. Please get on and write when you need to, all of us are here for you. With Love, T

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  62. I know it has been a while since I commented. I just want you to know I am so sorry for your loss. I know the unexpected death of a loved one is incredibly hard and I pray you have a circle of family and friends to help you through your grief. I hope you will keep us posted on how you are doing. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. JoAnne

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  63. I am so very sorry for your loss. Your post brought me to tears..I feel as if I know you after following your blog for so long. I know words are inadequate during these, however just know that there is a whole community of folks out here sending you love and prayers.

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  64. I am so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs and prayers from my corner of the world.

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  65. Yours was one of the first blogs I ever started following, mostly because of your beautiful picture of the Savior right there at the top. I am so sad for you right now as you suffer the loss of your dear husband. I can't imagine your pain, but I'm so glad you have the gospel. Your post was so inspiring.

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  66. Praying for peace for you and your family during this tough time.

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  67. So sorry for your loss. My prayers go with you.....Stay strong in the Lord.

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  68. As someone who reads your blog and shares in your joys and triumphs, it's only right that I write back as you have shared with us your sorrow. I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

    Thank you for bravely telling us about your family's loss. I wish you love, peace and comfort at this time. I know that God will hold you and your family in his hands. He is watching over you all, along with your husband, and will be with you, always.

    God bless you.

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  69. I am so very sorry for your loss. Having experienced a similar loss 14 years ago, I know that there are absolutely no words that can make this easier for you. But, I hope that knowing many others are thinking of you and praying for your family helps in some small way.

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  70. Prayers for you and your sons are on the way. Continue to draw close to Him. He will get you through this.

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  71. Sending prayers to your home. As a friend of Ali, I know your dear husband's legacy will live on through you and your beautiful children. May peace be with you. I am so sorry.

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  72. Oh I am so sorry to read this sad news. I have followed your awesome wisdom for a long time & know you have often mentioned how your Sweetheart always worked right along beside you! I pray that you will be comforted during this most difficult time. I teased you once in some correspondence that you must be a long lost sister of mine & I know that you have many in your "blog family" who will pray for you as their true Sister! I know our Heavenly Father will bless you and buoy you up with the strength you are in need of. I will keep you & your sweet family in my prayers.

    Sincerely, Tammy

    from Tammboper@gmail.com

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  73. Oh Joy, I am so very sorry for your loss! But I rejoice that you have a Hope that you will see him again one day.

    You are so right, God does have a plan for you, and He will get you through this. My prayers are with you and your family.

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  74. I have admired you blog for some time, and so when I read this I immediately began to weep for you loss. I will be praying for you and your family at this difficult time. Thank goodness for this gospel and our perspective on life.

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  75. my prayers are with you and your family

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  77. This song came to my head...Be still, my soul: the Lord is on thy side. Bear patiently the cross of grief or pain.

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  78. My deepest sympathies to you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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  79. My heart goes out to you and your boys! I will keep you all in my prayers. There are no words that can mend the tear in your heart, but know love is not bound by the normal rules.

    Hugs and Prayers

    Chez

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  80. I am so very sorry for your loss. You family will be in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless.

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  81. I'm so sorry for your loss. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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  82. I'm so sorry for your loss. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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  83. Oh my goodness, what a tragedy. My heart and my prayers go out to you and your family.

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  84. Joy, I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your heart and your uplifting blog post (uplifting even in the spite of tragedy!). I don't know you, and you don't know me, but I do know your daughter and knowing her makes me think that you are an incredible woman. I love reading your blog and all you have to share. I hope you'll keep with it, with him supporting you from the other side. :)

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  85. I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  86. I am so so sorry for your loss. You must be in shock. I want you to know that you and your family will continually be in my prayers during this very difficult time.

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  87. Joy, I am so sorry to hear of your loss! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your boys. I am sure they will be there for you for whatever you need. While I'm sure it was horrible for them, I am glad that they were there with their Dad. I am so, so sorry.

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  88. So sorry To hear about the loss of your dear husband. A couple months ago my 13 year old daughter found our neighbor in his back yard. I called 911 and gave him CPR until the paramedics arrived. He passed away the following day (on his wife's 50th birthday). He'd had a massive heart attack. It was very hard moitionally for our family. I can understand a a little bit of what your going through although I can't imagine losing my husband. My thoughts and prayers are with you family. So grateful for our knowledge of the gospel and eternal families!

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  89. I am so sorry to read your post. Five years ago this month, I was in your place.My beloved hubby died quickly of a massive heart attack. He was all of 42 when he passed away.

    Some advice that I found helpful-make no major decisions for at least a year. Do NOT take his name off the mortgage loan, should you have one. Same thing with car insurance and bank accounts.

    People will say STUPID things-" I can't imagine if it we ME, etc" "I know how you feel-because I lost a mom/dad/sister/cousin/dog" ( I finally said to someone once that unless they were sleeping with that person, they had NO idea what it felt like!)

    There is a website called the Young Widows Bulletin Board that was a BIG help. People to give advice, people to "talk" to, and just some well written stories by and for people who get it-people who are at all different stages of widowhood. I still visit the site on occasion.

    Again, I am SO sorry that your family is going through this. Take the time to grieve in your own way, and don't let anyone rush you/question you and your boys in the way they need to walk through this dark valley.

    I am living proof that there can be joy in one's life again, even after tragedy. Please know that while you will be forever changed, you will NOT be forever broken in spirit.

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  90. I am so terribly sorry for your nearly unbearable loss. 11 months ago my husband , age 57, survived a LAD heart attack , after being shocked time after time, and having surgery within minutes after that, I so wish your husband had been spared also, we do not understand why God allows some to live on here on earth, but others He takes home to be with Him. You are in my prayers.

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  91. What a blessing we have in the Gospel of Jesus Christ, to know you can be together FOREVER! I hope and know you can feel great comfort from our Heavenly Father. So, so sorry.

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  92. I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. This must be such a difficult time for you and your family. Know that you are in our thought and prayers.

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  93. I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. This must be such a difficult time for you and your family. Know that you are in our thought and prayers.

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  94. I am so sorry about the loss of your husband. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I hope that the realization that you have so many friends here who are also holding you and yours in their hearts and minds in prayer is of some comfort to you. Please take extra care of yourself at this time. God Bless.

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  95. So very sorry to hear of your loss. Your family is in our prayers.

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  96. Hi Joy! I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband. May the cherished memories of him bring you and your family comfort in this most difficult time. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  97. Joy, I'm so sorry for your loss. May our good and faithful Lord comfort you in this sorrowful time. You and your family are in my prayers.

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  98. I am so very sorry for your loss.

    Victoria

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  99. I am so very sorry for your loss.

    Victoria

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  100. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

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  101. Sending Prayers to you and your family.

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  102. Sending Prayers to you and your family.

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  103. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  104. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  105. Praying for you and your family. Numbers 6:24-26

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  106. Dear Joy, I am saddened to hear this news of your Husband's passing. I am also grateful that He is such a faithful person and has kept His covenants while in mortality. Your goodness helped Him in that way too. What a beautiful blessing.
    With love to you, Lynda

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  108. I am so sorry. There are no words to express it.

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  109. Tears and more tears...
    I pray that God will help you through the tough and lonely times.
    My heart is with you.

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  110. Prayers for you and your family during this difficult time. So sorry for your loss.

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  111. I am so sorry to read of the loss of your husband. THoughts and prayers go out to you and your family as you deal with your grief.Your testament to your husband was wonderful and although he will be greatly missed by you and your family, rest assured that our Father's loving arms are around you at this time.

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  112. I am so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine going through that prayers iwth your family!

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  113. I am so sorry for your loss.My prayers and thoughts for you and your family.

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  114. I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

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  115. My heart breaks for you and your family. May you find comfort in the thoughts and prayers of family, friends and total strangers, like myself.

    A poem I found online---

    Look for me in Rainbows
    Time for me to go now, I won't say goodbye;
    Look for me in rainbows, way up in the sky.
    In the morning sunrise when all the world is new,
    Just look for me and love me, as you know I loved you.

    Time for me to leave you, I won't say goodbye;
    Look for me in rainbows, high up in the sky.
    In the evening sunset, when all the world is through,
    Just look for me and love me, and I'll be close to you.

    It won't be forever, the day will come and then
    My loving arms will hold you, when we meet again.

    Time for us to part now, we won't say goodbye;
    Look for me in rainbows, shining in the sky.
    Every waking moment, and all your whole life through
    Just look for me and love me, as you know I loved you.

    Just wish me to be near you,
    And I'll be there with you.

    *Conn Bernard & Vicki Brown

    -Sharon
    slw_kerr@yahoo.com

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  116. I check your blog several times a week, although I don't usually comment. You always inspire me. I am so very sorry for your loss. I'm sure one of his responsibilities on the other side will be to continue to help and support you and your family. How blessed we are to have the knowledge that families are eternal. You're in my prayers.

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  117. Oh my goodness....I am so sorry! I don't comment here often, but I read often to see the fun things you do. It was one year ago last month that I found my husband collapsed on the floor after going upstairs to lie down for a nap. Thankfully, the paramedics were in our neighborhood and were able to respond quickly. I know we could've had a very different outcome. My heart aches for yours. I hope you can feel the love of our Heavenly Father and have peace in your heart at this hard time.

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  118. It must have been very difficult for you to write this post. I just stumbled upon your amazing blog from pinterest and I am saddened to see your loss.

    I also read your post from August about your mother-in-law and brother-in-law passing away. I hope that your own words and testimony will strengthen and lift you during this very sad time: "It is a difficult time for our family but we have peace knowing that life does not end. We know that our loved ones will be in a better place, surrounded by those who have gone before."

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  119. After my baby died, not much gave me comfort, but I was able to find a little in the hymns - I hope you may find peace - know that you are in many peoples prayers. (I especially found Hymns 292 and 293 to help)

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  120. I am truly sorry for your loss. I will pray for you & your family.

    xoxo
    twenty-four 7

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  121. I am truly sorry for your loss. I will pray for you & your family.

    xoxo
    twenty-four 7

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  122. I am truly sorry for your loss! Prayers for you and your family in this difficult process...

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  123. You are in my prayers, and I know Heavenly Father will be by your side when you feel alone. Please know that you are loved and important to him as well as to so many who love reading about your joys!

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  124. Joy, I've been a lurker on your blog for a long time. I am so incredibly sad to read about your husband's passing. My heart is aching for you.
    I pray that you will feel the love of the the Lord through the comfort of His Spirit. The plan of happiness is surely what will help you when it feels so overwhelming.
    I lost my dad in Dec and I can't imagine how I would get through that loss without the gospel.
    ((hugs))

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  125. I am so sorry to hear this sad news. I have followed your blog for a long time and always love reading it. Even though I don't know you well, this news is bringing tears. Take care and may Heavenly Father bless you and your family,

    Elisabeth B.

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  126. As I read this my heart sunk to my stomach and I shed tears for you. I am so terribly sorry for your loss. Sending lots of prayers and hugs to you during this difficult time. May God Bless you and your sweet family.

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  127. It has been awhile since I have visited your blog and I always have loved it. I just signed on this morning to post and this was in my feed at the bottom. I am praying for you and your family. I have been through the same thing though I am now remarried I STILL understand exactly how you feel. I am here if you need to talk or have questions. I know no amount of "I am sorry" can take away your hurt. I have so much more I can say but I will leave it for now but just want you to know I am here! tiffgarrett@hotmail.com

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  128. Joy,
    I haven't posted very often but I am a follower. I think I live close by (Provo) and am a member. Need a friend to go to lunch with...my treat?

    I can't imagine what you are going through with no warning signs to help prepare.

    My prayers are with you.

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  129. I am so sorry to hear of this news. Prayers for you, your children and the extended family.

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  130. I am so sorry for your loss.

    I have read and enjoyed your blog for a while and I love how your strong faith comes out in your posts, regardless of what you are blogging about. May this same faith hold you up now during this sad time.

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  131. I know that you have received so many comments very similar to mine but I just want to add my thoughts and prayers to everyone elses.

    I have read and enjoyed your blog for so long - I've never commented even though your creativity has inspired me and amazed me.

    I am sorry for your loss. I am grateful for the peace the gospel brings to all of us. May your family (your kids especially) be buoyed up by the spirit at this time. When my dad died I could honestly say, like Nephi, that I felt the loving arms of the Lord around me. I know your kids will feel that too.

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  132. I'm sorry is probably the words that you do not want to hear at this time. I'm sure that you have heard them enough.

    I have followed your blog for quite a few years and your sight as helped me get through many long, dark days and nights. About 3 years ago, my husband, who was in the military passed away leaving me with 2 young children and an older one. At that time, I was a stay at home mom and didn't know how I would make it through everything. But, I did from the support of my church friends and through the grace of GOD, which I sooo heavily leaned onto. I want to encourage you, that you will heal and you will survive and life doesn't look like it use to, but there is always blessings and rainbows as time goes on.

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  133. I am so truly sorry for your loss. May you feel the peace that passes all understanding.

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  134. I am so truly sorry for your loss. May you feel the peace that passes all understanding.

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  135. So sorry for your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  136. My heart is breaking for you....and prayers being said for you....I pray our Heavenly Father will wrap his arms around you and give you comfort and peace during this difficult time.

    I am so very sorry...

    Lou Cinda

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  137. Hugs.Dear.Hold.tight.to.your.memories...lean.on.each.other...God.will.lead.you.
    Hugs.from.Iowa,
    Michelle@Pine.Needle.Hill

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  138. I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

    Pam

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  139. I'm so sorry to hear that! May Jesus give you peace in this sad time of your life!

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  140. I am so so sorry for your loss. It is good to know there is a plan for us and I know your faith and family will carry you through.

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  141. Please accept my sincere condolences. I was shocked and saddened to read your post and just cannot begin to imagine how you and your boys must feel.
    I hope that your faith will help you. In the meantime I'm thinking of you and your dear family.
    Kindest regards
    Rose H
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  142. I am truly sorry for your loss-
    Faith in Christ does give us a hope that this is not our final home, so I do hope you have peace in that you will see your husband again one day.
    God bless you-
    I have followed your blog for several years, and appreciate you sense of style.

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  143. I too, am so sorry for your loss.

    May you feel the love and strength of Jesus surrounding you and flowing through you at this time. You will be reunited.

    Hugs ~ FlowerLady

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  144. I am so far behind on my blogs and I am just now reading this. I can not imagine what you and your family are going through, but please know that I am praying like crazy for you. You are such a strong and inspiring woman and I know you can make it through this, even though it will take time. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss.

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  145. May you feel the loving arms of the Savior around you as you grieve and the power of the atonement as you heal. I too experienced the loss of my husband at a relatively young age. I testify that he will be by your side as you continue forward alone.

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  146. May you feel the loving arms of the Savior around you as you grieve and the power of the atonement as you heal. I too experienced the loss of my husband at a relatively young age. I testify that he will be by your side as you continue forward alone.

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  147. Oh Joy. I am heartbroken for you -- I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I pray for peace for all of you right now. Take care.

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  148. My heart breaks for you right now. I know that the Lord will be with you. Hugs.

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  149. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart aches for you. I know the Lord is mindful of you especially right now.

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  150. I'm so very sorry to hear this! I can't even imagine what you and your family are going through.

    Take comfort in your faith and the love of your family. Many thoughts and prayers for you!

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  151. i am so sorry for your loss, and while i do not know you personally, i have come to love your blog and style. my heart sunk for you, a stranger i will probably never meet, but still i hope you find comfort in all of these many comments of love and condolences, even from those who you don't know.

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  152. I was so sad to read this today and I am so sorry that you lost your dear husband. Sending wishes for comfort and strength and a hug.

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  153. I am still praying for you. I hope you and your sons are doing alright!

    XO

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  154. My heart goes out to you and your family on the loss of your husband. You are in my prayers.

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  155. Joy,
    I am so very sorry. Having four sons and married for as long as you, we must be about the same age. I am just catching up on my blog reading and this took my breath away.There will be a missing piece but I am comforted in knowing your are comforted in your beliefs that our Lord and Savior has your husband in His comfort and care. My hugs and prayer are with you and your family.
    Blessings

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  156. We've never met but I feel as though I know you. I normally read you blog but don't add comments. This time, I couldn't let the opportunity go by. I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your husband. The Lord's plans too often don't coincide with ours and it takes a great deal of faith to say "thy will be done". May the Spirit be with you when you are lonely or angry or unhappy. May you grow closer together as a family. And may you always remember that families are forever. I wish you the peace that comes from your faith in Jesus Christ. Thank you for the lift you have given to your readers over the many years. We will now return the favor by keeping you and your family in our prayers.

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  157. I am so very sorry to read this. I lost my eldest granddaughter March 4; she was 18 and ready to graduate from high school. Sometimes I feel consumed with sorrow and loss as you probably do as well. Please let me share one of my favorite songs with you, a Christian song by Mercy Me: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mxqfDs-64I0

    God bless you and your family.
    Sher

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  158. I am sorry to hear of your loss. Take comfort in the gospel of our savior, Jesus Christ and know that you will be together again! My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I love your blog, your inpiration. Jamie

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  159. I am so sorry to learn of your husband's passing. I haven't visited in awhile and I am so saddened by the news. Your love for him and his live for you always shone brightly through your blog. My prayers are with your family.

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  160. I'm so sorry for you and your children. I can't imagine what you all must be feeling. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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  161. Oh I am so sorry you are missing your sweet heart. I'll be praying you will be wrapped in love and peace...Heavenly Father knows what He has asked of you. He will always be with you- especially on the tender days.

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  162. I've been a long time reader but do not comment much but know that I am thinking of you and your family and I hope God provides you comfort during such a heartbreaking time. You're in my prayers.

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  163. Still praying for you...awaiting your return.... take as long as you need...
    hugs,
    lora

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  164. I'm truly so sorry for your loss. This week my sister in law died from complications of child birth. It was very unexpected and heartbreaking. I know that each loss is so very personal and the pain is so cutting but I do know a little of how you feel. My heart and prayers are with your family.

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  165. I have not been online checking out all of my favorite blogs for awhile now. When I saw this post it immediately made me cry. I am so very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers. I hope that you can feel the love of all of the people in your life. You are such an inspiration to so many. Hugs to you.

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  166. I can't imagine your pain. I have whispered a prayer for you & your family.~TJ

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  167. I've been thinking about you today and thought I'd stop by just to let you know. I hope you and your family are doing well.

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  168. I so very sorry for your lose. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  169. Dearest Joy,
    It's okay to be sad and to cry. It's okay to be happy and to laugh. It's okay to do nothing, to have a blank stare, to scream, to weep,to eat a lot and to not eat. It's okay to question, to remember, to feel that your heart is literally breaking, it's okay to feel selfish, to want to be alone, to talk, to sit in silence. It's okay to feel as though no one else knows this feeling. It's okay to feel nothing today and God's love tomorrow. I am truly sorry for your loss, that you lost a part of you, and that your heart aches. I hope you find a little bit of peace sometime soon and that you know that you have "friends" that keep you and your family in their prayers.
    With love,
    DMC-T

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  170. Dearest Joy,
    It's okay to be sad and to cry. It's okay to be happy and to laugh. It's okay to do nothing, to have a blank stare, to scream, to weep,to eat a lot and to not eat. It's okay to question, to remember, to feel that your heart is literally breaking, it's okay to feel selfish, to want to be alone, to talk, to sit in silence. It's okay to feel as though no one else knows this feeling. It's okay to feel nothing today and God's love tomorrow. I am truly sorry for your loss, that you lost a part of you, and that your heart aches. I hope you find a little bit of peace sometime soon and that you know that you have "friends" that keep you and your family in their prayers.
    With love,
    DMC-T

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  171. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
    Thank you for all of your inspiration.
    Big hugs!

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  172. I am just checking in on you and letting you know that I am thinking of you. Hope you are doing well as can be....

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  173. Joy,
    I haven't read any blogs for awhile and wanted to catch up today on yours. I am so sorry for your loss. Your beautiful thoughts regarding your husband touched me, as did your statments of faith and hope in the promise of eternity. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. May God bring you peace, comfort and strength.

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  174. This brings tears to my eyes. My prayers go to you and your family. I always admired your strong faith. Thank you for the things that you taught and continue to teach me through your loss. Our Heavenly Father has a special place for your dear companion.

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  175. 33 lucky years with your special someone and now you have your sons and I am sure many, many wonderful memories. I am sure you will find your way, your peace and heal that heart that is so heavy.
    I hope we see you on this site doing what you love. God be with you every step of your journey.

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  176. Oh my...I haven't checked your blog in quite some time and am just completely at a loss for what to say. I'm so so sorry for your loss. I hope that each day brings you a bit of peace and comfort and I will be remembering you and your family in my prayers today.

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  177. I just found your blog through a link on another blog, and wanted to say I am SO sorry for your loss. I cannot even imagine how you feel. Our prayers are with you.

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  178. I check in every now and then wondering how you are doing. I hope you are finding comfort. It must be so hard. There are many of us thinking of you and hoping you are doing well.

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  179. I am just sitting here in tears. I've always followed your blog, but some reason got out of touch. I saw your coffee table on pinterest and was so happy to find you again..then to read this just breaks my heart for you. I am so sorry for your loss, but I know I just don't have the words that could comfort you. I will pray for your healing.

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  180. I'm so sorry for the (earthly) loss of your husband. I have been out of the blog-sphere for a few months and just read your blog today. I'm so shocked that he left you so suddenly, but am so grateful that you are sharing your testimony of eternal families even through your grief. I love your blog, and all your decorating ideas, so I hope that someday you will start up again. Until then, know that we are thinking and praying for you and your family.

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  181. Oh my, Joy! Just now saw this. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

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  182. I just keep thinking of you and your family ~ God be with you and everyone who loved him <3

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  183. I am so very sorry for your loss ! I just came across this blog . I dont know if you come back to read what people write . But hope you and your family are doing ok !

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  184. I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your sweetheart. I deeply feel for you and your family. I hold you close in prayer.
    Beth

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  185. continuing in prayer for you and your family during this time of loss.. Praying for comfort and peace that only our Loving Father can truly give us...
    Sometimes this earthly life is so hard to understand... but thats when we need to remember the Truth... and rest , assured, in His loving arms..
    because of His Great Mercies,
    Cathy B pbprojecthope at yahoo dot com

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  186. Hi Joy, I wanted you to know I"m thinking of you and praying for you. I'm so sorry, and I've wondered how you are doing. I don't think I could blog right now either. Just know that you are in my thoughts and mind, and prayers, hope to hear from you at some point when you feel up to it. Give yourself a big hug from me, know that with every prayer, God has you on His mind too.
    Blessings,
    Debbie

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  187. Hi Joy,

    Just wanted to know that I'm thinking of you and hoping that you are beginning to find some measure of peace. I'm so sorry for your loss.

    Terri

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  188. Joy,
    I don't know if you come here anymore but I do...looking to see a word or two from you, hoping you are well and praying for peace and comfort in what must be an never ending nightmare. take care and know we are out here with open hearts...

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  189. I am so sorry for your loss!! Just think... he's getting projects ready on the other side for you!

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  190. Oh my gosh, I just randomly came across your blog today because I was looking for home decor ideas. I am so so sorry. I am also a member of the Church and my prayers are with you. Heavenly Father is paying special attention to you and your family right now. All my love!

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